My mom tried to do her best. The only reason my brother, sister and I didn't experience violent beatings (like all our cousins) was because she threatened to poison our father's food if he did. None of the three of us wanted to inflict childhood on another human being, so we chopped off the only smart branch in the clan tree. Our lives have been productive, creative, adventurous, well rested and guilt free. Not breeding is also the #1 most environmental action one can take.