Step Away from the Dating Site. Walk Out of the Bar.

How to find the women you aren’t meeting now but want to.

Mernie Buchanan
4 min readNov 26, 2021

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San Francisco Conservatory, photo by mernie buchanan

This morning I had every good intention to keep going on my novel, even though I should really get down to my art studio because that is where real income happens. But I surfed Medium for amusement instead. Clicked an interesting headline. I Work In Porn. I Know Why So Many Men Are Single — A look into the frustrating world of dating as a man.

The author made many great points, but didn’t go quite far enough when she suggested working on oneself… something we all need to do probably every day. She also missed the most obvious solution to the dating conundrum.

This is not fresh new advice, I’m only reiterating what should be repeated yet again… and I have seen it work miraculously time and time again.

Improve yourself. Make yourself more dateable in a win win arena of possibility where the women you want to meet hang out. And if that special someone isn’t there, you will still come out enhanced and with new friends… while paying a whole lot less for bar tabs, or inching closer to your credit limit with dating sites. It’s not that hard.

Join a group. An actual group of real people.

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Mernie Buchanan

Originally from CA & Las Vegas, I now paint and write in Woodstock NY. All images are my original art & photos. Links to more at mernie.com